What makes men cheat – men’s opinion

Posted on October 22nd, 2008 in Miscellaneous | 2 Comments »

cheatingAn interesting thing (and in the same time funny) discovered by marriage counselor M. Gary Neuman, while researching about male infidelity, is that most of the studies were based on the wife’s answers.  As long as we are talking about what makes men cheat it would be more relevant to listen for the men’s answers. It would make more sense, isn’t it? This is how Neuman thought when starting to survey 200 cheating and noncheating husbands to find out the real reasons behind men’s infidelity.

Well, here are the results of the research:

-    Emotional dissatisfaction is considered as the primary reason men cheated  – study shows that 48%
-    66% of cheating men report feeling guilt during the affair. The conclusion for this statistic can be that guilt isn’t enough to stop a man from cheating.
-    77% of cheating men have a good friend who cheated – so, women keep an eye on your husband’s entourage. An advice for this worrying statistic: build your social circle around happily married couples that share your values it will create an environment that supports marriage.
-    40% of cheating men met the other woman at work. This statistic is also related to the first reason men cheat: they do not feel valued at home but at the office someone congratulate him, compliments his efforts and looks up to him.
-    Only 12% of cheating men said their mistress was more physically attractive than their wife. – in most cases men are cheating to fill an emotional void not for a good looking body.

cheat at workOverall, the study M Gary Neuman made conclude to interesting conclusions. You can see the entire article here the final advice the marriage counselor gives for the women is not to hesitate to show your appreciation for him, prioritize time together, and initiate affection more.
My question: It’s indeed always women’s fault? Doesn’t women need affection in the same extend as men?

Cheating Women vs. Men Signs

Posted on August 22nd, 2008 in Miscellaneous | Comments Off

Cheating men and women usually have a hard time hiding the fact that they are cheating from their significant other, despite their entire well thought out efforts. In order to hide their cheating, men and women take on new behaviors that they don’t always realize or are hoping their partner will not notice. These new behaviors are often the most tell tale cheating signs that a partner can recognize, and men and women have a few similar signs as well as different ones.

Cheating women, men signsMen and women have some very similar signs that they give off when they are cheating. After all, it is hard to keep up the same routine when you have changed it in order to see someone else on the side. Some of the most tell tale signs of cheating men and women are an irregular schedule, when there never was one before. Excuses usually include the need to work late, out of town business meetings all of a sudden and frequently, repeated overnights at friend’s homes and other changes to a schedule.

Because your cheating partner is spending time with someone new, his or her behavior with you may also change. Sometimes this change will be drastic and very obvious, while other times it can be subtle as they don’t want you to know they are cheating and try hard to keep things the same. Men and women have different ways of changing their behavior towards you and it can include everything from becoming disinterested in you and your life together to no longer showing any forms of affection or sharing intimacy.

While there are no absolute ways to determine if someone is cheating on you, simple signs and extra care given to privacy and secrecy are usually good tells.

Deciding what to do or whether to confront your significant other about your suspicions is an entirely different matter that you need to decide for yourself.